I am adding a very intimate and candid moment to my blog today....a side that unless you read my personal facebook, you may not see...that I am a Mom of 4 kids and 3 step-kids which equals 7. Yup, that was not a typo...it's 7. 7 amazing children that I couldn't imagine my world with out them....but let's be honest....this.shit.is.HARD. The hardest thing I have ever done. To juggle school, feeding...my goodness the feeding and the snacks are a daily job on it's own, sports, church, washing clothes, making sure they brush teeth, cleaning rooms, wiping butts, my job..3 businesses, and a new marriage....How in the world is this even possible? It was exhausting just to type...
How do you juggle it? How do I juggle it? Juggle being a Mom AND being a business woman??
Humor & Balance....
Humor is huge...like this picture...Back to school always floods a lot of emotions for me. Sometimes even the smell of the crayons, notebooks, and supplies at Wal-Mart can bring up these emotions. A big one most of us feel is Excited! Excited to have my daily freedom back. Where I can eat a candy bar in silence and not have to share. Where I can go to Wal-Mart without spending $50 more then I planned because somehow there are 7 things we didn't realize we needed until we touched base in the land of all the crap. I also get so sad. Sad that I don't get to see my kids as much. You know, wake up late, enjoy breakfast, plan our day, make them clean for me, playing games, and reading. It's sad to give up that time with them to others. Mad. So mad that I have to spend SO MUCH MONEY ON SUPPLIES. 7 kids starting school doesn't come cheaply but of course I fork it over for the cause. I will be happy my fridge won't empty so quickly because if one more person asks me for a snack I might have to be admitted. Anyone else's kids need a "snack" 4 minutes after ANY given meal?? I am always worried that I won't be good at helping with homework. The way classes are done now days always throw me off. I feel like they have made simple addition SO HARD. Us old people just don't get it. I know I will be glad to have more time for business. Fall season is always crazy and I enjoy giving my clients the attention their pictures are worth. Sometimes I worry I will struggle making my schedule work...cause that is the second BIGGEST part..Schedule...Between traveling, school events, blended kids, sessions, weddings, and practices...some days just don't have enough hours.
Before I even take sessions for a month, I block of dates that I refuse to work so I know to make time for family. Even if that means 10:54pm blogging sessions (like tonight). I make myself STOP at a certain time at night and some days I don't let myself START until a certain time of day. I schedule my blog, my shopping, my gym time, my Jesus time, and my family time. There is of course room for the spontaneous but to make sure my kids feel secure and that they have my attention, I schedule everything and I old school schedule everything with Pen & Paper AND electronicly, ie: my iPhone calendar.
Don't get me wrong...some days end up like this:
Stressed, tired, and sitting in the tub with a bottle of wine! Business woman and Mom's are human too! I wouldn't trade running my business, where I can make my own schedule to chose what I want to do with my time and when I do it, for anything in the world. I also try very hard to make sure my family doesn't suffer the stress as well.
Plus, I love my job! Which is half the battle most days. Meeting new families and sharing my love for capturing those special moments is everyday different and cherished in my eyes. I love watching families come together and then grow. It's such a blessing to be trusted as that person in someone's life....to document the greatest moments of their life! WOW!
Always remember that with a little humor, a little balance, a lot of Jesus, and a lot of love...you can survive and accomplish anything. Don't give up, especially not on yourself, because most of all those little ones are watching and learning.